Tuesday, June 16, 2009

The myth of "homosexual love"

Dutch psychologist Gerard J.M. van den Aardweg, Ph.D., a specialist on homosexuality, writes:

"The term neurotic describes such relationships [same-sex] well. It suggests the ego-centeredness of the relationship; the attention-seeking instead of loving...Neurotic, in short, suggests all kinds of dramas and childish conflicts as well as the basic disinterestedness of in the partner, notwithstanding the shallow pretensions of 'love.' Nowhere is there more self-deception in the homosexual than in his representation of himself as a lover. One partner is important to the other only insofar as he satisfies that other's needs. Real, unselfish love for a desired partner would, in fact, end up destroying homosexual 'love'!" (Gerard J.M. van den Aardweg, The Battle for Normality, Ignatius Press, 1997, pp. 62-63).

"Van den Aardweg says that the claim that homosexuality is normal is one of those statements that are "so foolish that only intellectuals could believe them." It is like saying that anorexia nervosa is healthy. And he denies that homesexuality is caused by the genes, or the structure of the brain; the evidence shows that it is acquired. Nor is it a necessary result of effeminacy; it is the child's "self-perception as masculine or feminine" that makes the difference. It is caused by pressure to develop an opposite-sex role. Often mothers do not view or treat their sons as "real men," and fathers do not view or treat their daughters as "real girls." (From the Catholic Insight book review of "The Battle for Normality." Read the entire book review here.

Related reading here.

"The first novelty of biblical faith consists, as we have seen, in its image of God. The second, essentially connected to this, is found in the image of man. The biblical account of creation speaks of the solitude of Adam, the first man, and God's decision to give him a helper. Of all other creatures, not one is capable of being the helper that man needs, even though he has assigned a name to all the wild beasts and birds and thus made them fully a part of his life. So God forms woman from the rib of man. Now Adam finds the helper that he needed: “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh” (Gen 2:23). Here one might detect hints of ideas that are also found, for example, in the myth mentioned by Plato, according to which man was originally spherical, because he was complete in himself and self-sufficient. But as a punishment for pride, he was split in two by Zeus, so that now he longs for his other half, striving with all his being to possess it and thus regain his integrity. While the biblical narrative does not speak of punishment, the idea is certainly present that man is somehow incomplete, driven by nature to seek in another the part that can make him whole, the idea that only in communion with the opposite sex can he become “complete”. The biblical account thus concludes with a prophecy about Adam: “Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife and they become one flesh” (Gen 2:24).

Two aspects of this are important. First, eros is somehow rooted in man's very nature; Adam is a seeker, who “abandons his mother and father” in order to find woman; only together do the two represent complete humanity and become “one flesh”. The second aspect is equally important. From the standpoint of creation, eros directs man towards marriage, to a bond which is unique and definitive; thus, and only thus, does it fulfil its deepest purpose. Corresponding to the image of a monotheistic God is monogamous marriage. Marriage based on exclusive and definitive love becomes the icon of the relationship between God and his people and vice versa. God's way of loving becomes the measure of human love. This close connection between eros and marriage in the Bible has practically no equivalent in extra-biblical literature." Pope Benedict XVI, Encyclical Letter Deus Caritas Est, No. 11).


John Ansley said...

Many homosexuals promote the lie of "homosexual love." But it's not love they are advancing, it is lust. Speaking about conjugal love, the Catechism says that, "Since God created him man and woman, their mutual love becomes an image of the absolute and unfailing love with which God loves man...God blessed them, and God said to them: 'Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it.'" (1604).

And 1605: "Holy Scripture affirms that man and woman were created for one another...The woman, 'flesh of his flesh,' his equal, his nearest in all things, is given to him by God as a 'helpmate'; she thus represents God from whom comes our help.."

ShrewsburyCatholic said...

Conjugal love requires psychological and physical complementarity which can only exist between opposite sexes. Men and women were created for one another. There is complementarity there.

Michael Cole said...

Homosexuals, lesbians and transsexuals are often afflicted by evil spirits. Gender confusion is often a sign of demonic possession. Fr. Malachi Martin recounts the story of a possessed transsexual in his bestselling book "Hostage to the Devil." In the chapted titled "The Virgin and the Girl-Fixer," he writes, "At one moment, Father Gerald, the exorcist, was bending over the possessed, Richard/Rita, who had sunk his teeth into his own instep. In the enxt instant, the glaze in Richard/Rita's eyes broke, melting into a lurid gleam of mockery. Greenish. The teeth loosened their grip on the instep. The mouth opened, baring gums and throat, the tongue protruded, quivering on a stream of gray foam bubbles. The whole face was furrowed in irregular lines, as Richard/Rita broke into peals of laughter. Great buffeting gusts of mocking, jeering, Schadenfreude laughter. Laugter pouring from a belly of amused scorn and contemptuous hate."

Homosexuality and lesbianism have nothing to do with authentic conjugal love. I agree with Dr. Aardweg, "homosexual love" is impossible. Homosexuality and lesbianism are forms of psychopathology which are often the result of demonic possession, infestation or obsession.

Ann Duclos said...

At the Defend the Faith Blog, homosexual activist John Hosty of Salem, Massachusetts, who has described those of us who are actually faithful to the Church's teaching on homosexuality and same-sex "marriage" as "radicals," had this to say about Renee (who wants, and has called for, legal recognition of "differing types of relationships"): "The only sane person that blogs here is Renee. She knows enough to give people the opportunity to change and grow towards the light instead of embracing fear and the darkness that surrounds hate." In other words, because John Hosty views Renee as affirming him in his sin, she's the "only sane person" who blogs at Defend the Faith.

Hosty adds: "People who can't handle the idea that gay people can be good and worthy of God forced me out of the church with their hate, much like people here hate when I post. I chose to leave the organized church in order to follow Christ on a more private path. That path in no way leads away from His teachings, I still embrace love and peace, I simply cannot be a part of the hypocrisy of the Holy See."

There you have it. This lost soul deserted the Mystical Body of Christ because it wouldn't approve of his sin or affirm him in his immoral "lifestyle."

Any serious and faithful Catholic who refuses to condone Mr. Hosty's gravely sinful "lifestyle" will be labelled as "hateful," "bigoted," or "insane" by Mr. Hosty. And while a hateful comment directed at Mr. Hosty a couple of years ago was immediately rejected by Renee (a Catholic (?) blogger) she is mysteriously silent when faithful Catholics are frequently insulted by Mr. Hosty, whose comments remain at the Blog while the comment which had been directed against Mr. Hosty was deleted immediately.

One has to wonder what is going on at DTF.

Marie Tremblay said...

Ann, the CDF has taught clearly that "Those who would move from tolerance to the legitimization of specific rights for cohabiting homosexual persons need to be reminded that the approval or legalization of evil is something far different from the toleration of evil." Renee's call for laws which recognize "differing relationships" is very troubling. There is no doubt about that fact.

I think it's odd that Renee was so quick to pounce on Paul for a remark he didn't make (it was mine and I stand by it) but, as you correctly note, seemingly has nothing to say about Mr. Hosty's comments. Does Renee share the view that she alone is "sane" and those of us who stand with the CDF are somehow mentally damaged? Does Renee view us as "bigots" because we sand with the Magisterium?

I really am most curious myself as to why Renee would call for some sort of legal recognition of same-sex arrangements when the CDF warns against it. Equally curous as to why she has nothing to say regarding Mr. Hosty's accusations.

Ellen Wironken said...

Same-Sex "Marriage" Suffers Plunge in Popularity: Poll
By Kathleen Gilbert

NEW YORK, June 19, 2009 (LifeSiteNews.com) - The results of a poll revealed this week show a significant drop in support for same-sex "marriage" since April of this year.

Only 33% of respondents to the CBS News/New York Times poll said same-sex couples should be allowed to marry, down 9% from April's findings, which was an all-time high at 42%. 30% in the June survey said that homosexual couples should be allowed civil unions, while 32% said homosexual couples should be given no legal recognition.

The new data brings the numbers back on a level with March's poll, where one out of three supported same-sex "marriage."

Gary Schneeberger, vice president of media and public relations for Focus on the Family Action, conjectured that the plummeting support may represent a backlash from Americans troubled by a sudden rash of states legalizing same-sex "marriage" through the judiciary or the legislature, rather than a voter referendum.

Since April, New Hampshire, Maine, Vermont, and Iowa joined Massachusetts and Connecticut in recognizing same-sex "marriage." The circumstances of Iowa's decision was particularly controversial, as it resulted from an activist court ruling instigated by homosexual activists, who openly admitted that the decision was the fruit of years of researching sympathetic state Supreme Courts. (see coverage)

True marriage supporters also fear that instability in New York's legislature may lead to a hastened vote on that state's proposed same-sex "marriage" legislation.

Scheenburger also suggested that the poll results could indicate Americans are turning to alternative media to learn about same-sex "marriage."

"In reporting the results of its own poll, CBS used the word 'dip' to describe the 9 percent plunge in support for gay marriage," Schneeberger said. "In elections, it's considered a landslide when a candidate wins by 10 points. So to describe this as a 'dip' pretty clearly illustrates where CBS, at least, stands on this issue."

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